Do you habitually feel frustrated or powerless about the way people act towards you? Do you often think to yourself that you wish you had told someone “No” instead of “Yes”?
We cannot control another person’s thoughts, intentions, or behavior but a large part of how our interactions play out is based on how we set healthy boundaries for ourselves. Learning to value and respect your personal needs means letting go of beliefs that “You don’t matter” or that your needs are not as important as the whims and wants of those around you.
You may be thinking, “It’s ok because I can handle it” or “I just don’t want to disappoint my friends and family” or “I really don’t need anything from anyone. I just want to give to others.” These are all nice thoughts that come from a good place in your heart. But what happens is that after you’ve done too much for someone and you’ve put your own life on the back burner, it will put stress and strain on your relationships and you can end up feeling angry and resentful. This build up of stress can lead to friendships or relationships ending and create a lot of tension in existing ones.
You may feel guilty or uncomfortable letting people do things for you or feel like you don’t deserve to be treated with kindness. Most people in these situations would be feeling exactly the same way as you do.
I used to say “Yes” to everything and would constantly do unsolicited favors to the point of smothering people. Over time I realized how much I was hurting myself and how it was hurting my relationships. Now I can tell you from my personal experience with shamanic healing, I’ve become strong in my body and I’m very comfortable saying “No” and I’m OK with it because sometimes not doing something is better than saying “Yes” if it’s not sincere.
Going further, when someone gives you a yes or no, learning to respect their wishes will do a great deal for you and your relationship with that person. Not only will you have honored their boundaries as well as your own, your relationship will strengthen because you can now be in a place where there is ease to be yourself while in the presence of that person.
Shamanic energy healing will help to un-glue old emotions and traumas that you are inadvertently and unconsciously holding onto that cause habitual behavior that is hurtful to you and those around you. Learning to value your wants and needs is an ongoing journey that takes practice and a commitment to wanting a better life for yourself right now.
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